Hannah ~ Trusting God with Our Children

Young child waiting for school bus

Leaving home – by Arvind Balaraman

[Republished from October 2011, with minor edits]

Most of us are familiar with the Bible story of Hannah, mother of Samuel.  Though barren and childless, she prayed and believed God would give her a son.  Hannah is often held up as an example of a godly woman of faith, and rightly so.  I wonder, though, how often we really consider the nature of her faith.

Hannah was both much more and much less than a wonderful godly woman who prayed and trusted god to give her a son.  It is easy to focus on this one aspect and neglect looking at the total picture.  So, let’s do a quick review.

Hannah desperately wanted a son and knew who to turn to for help.  Finding herself in need, Hannah turned to God, pouring her heart out before Him, in the tabernacle.  1 Samuel 1:10 says, “And she, greatly distressed, prayed to the Lord and wept bitterly.”

Hannah, however, was not perfect.  She was as human as any of us, and she was not perfect in how she addressed God or in how she prayed.  The very next verse says, “And she made a vow and said, ‘O Lord of hosts, if Thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of Thy maidservant and remember me, and not forget Thy maidservant, but wilt give Thy maidservant a son, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and a razor shall never come upon his head.’”

Hannah, in her desperation, tried to bargain with God…if you do this for me then I’ll do that for you.  This is no way to address the creator of the universe!  We don’t approach God with a bargain, as though we have anything to offer that isn’t already His!

What could Hannah have been thinking?  She should have remembered from the story of Jephthah and his daughter (Judges 11) that bargaining with God is generally not a good idea.

To make matters worse, look what Hannah used as her end of the barter…her first-born son.  In Exodus 13:1 & 11-16, God made it perfectly clear that all first-born children were sacred to Him and belonged to Him in a special way, because of His protection of the Israelites during the Passover plague of the death of the firstborn of Egypt.  Hannah was offering to God what God had already specifically claimed as belonging to Him!

Perhaps Hannah was thinking of the story of Samson (Judges 13:5-7) where another barren Israelite woman was promised a son and instructed to bring him up honoring the Nazarite vows from before his birth.  However, there was a distinct difference.  In the case of Samson, both the promise and the requirement of the Nazarite vow was initiated by God.  In the case of Hannah and Samuel, Hannah offered the Nazarite vow in exchange for God granting her a son.  Furthermore, while Samson was raised by his parents, Hannah gave Samuel to be raised by the priests in the tabernacle.

Now, think about that for a minute.  Hannah kept Samuel at home until he was old enough to wean.  We don’t know the exact age, but it is safe to assume Samuel was probably somewhere around three to five years of age when Hannah took him with her to Shiloh and left him with Eli, the priest, to be raised in the tabernacle.

Afterwards, Samuel only saw his parents once a year when they came up to Shiloh and brought him a new set of clothes.

Can you imagine?  That scenario just doesn’t fit with our New Testament perspective viewed through modern western culture lenses.  What parent would take their pre-school-aged toddler, drop them off to be raised by priests, then show up to visit just once a year?  What sort of parent would consider one change of clothes per year sufficient child support for their son?  From my perspective, Hannah’s actions appear down-right irresponsible!

Samuel grew up seeing his family only once a year.  He couldn’t have really known his parents.  He never had a chance to know his older brothers and sisters, after he left home.  Later Hannah had three more sons and two daughters.  These younger siblings were raised at home, only seeing their older brother once a year, if then.

To make matters worse, the tabernacle was not exactly ideally suited for raising children…especially not while Eli was priest.  Eli’s sons were very wicked, stealing meat from the people’s sacrifices and sleeping with the women who served at the tent of meeting.  What a bizarre environment for young Samuel to be raised in!

And yet, God honored Hannah’s prayers and Hannah’s faith!  God’s hand was on Samuel, and Samuel became a prophet at a very early age.  Samuel was greatly used of God throughout his life.  He was the last of the judges of Israel and ushered in the monarchy by anointing the first two kings of Israel.

To me, there is a great deal of comfort in this realization.  As a father who has experienced divorce and accompanying child custody agreements, I know what it means to lie awake nights worrying about my children who are not in my home.  I know what it means to grieve the loss of drastically reduced involvement in my young children’s lives.  And I know how difficult it can be to learn to hand that over to God and simply trust HIm with my precious children being in a situation over which I have little knowledge and no control.

Knowing how much Hannah wanted a son, can you imagine how difficult that promise to God must have been to follow through on?  Don’t you know she prayed incessantly for young Samuel, especially as news spread about the atrocious behavior of Eli’s sons in the tabernacle?

Yet, for all her faults, Hannah trusted God and Hannah prayed…the daily prayers of a loving concerned parent.  And God honored those prayers!

God did not work in young Samuel’s life despite the bizarre childhood environment but through that environment!  He used those childhood experiences to work out His will and purpose in the life of Samuel, preparing him for the ministry which God had pre-ordained for him.

What situation is your child facing, today, over which you seem to have little or no control?  Whatever it is, you can trust God…and you can know that God does work through the fervent prayers of a loving parent…even when we don’t know how to pray…

Your thoughts?

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14 thoughts on “Hannah ~ Trusting God with Our Children

  1. Food for thought. As my health has deteriorated I’ve become more and more concerned about our children – the dogs in our sanctuary.

    I can still care for them, but it’s getting harder and harder, and I don’t know how Barbara will manage when I’m dead.

    So right now I’m praying for God to give me the strength to keep going, no matter how much it hurts, indefinitely. He has honored that, and I know that I live and work on His sufferance.

    • Andrew, I can only imagine how incredibly difficult that must be. Your continual faith and reliance on God is truly an inspiration.

      Praying for you, this morning!

  2. When I’m at my most angsty, I do well to remember that God loves my children more than I’m capable of loving them. Enjoyed reading your perspective on this part of Hannah’s story.

    • “…God loves my children more than I’m capable of loving them.”

      Yes, He does! That truth is so precious to cling to during life’s difficult periods.

      Thank you, Brandee!

  3. Thanks, Joe, for you insights.
    As a Christian parent, I learned very early on that our children belong to God. And this world can present us with joys as well as dangers and concerns. It is hard to imagine that God loves our children far more than we love them.

    I learned almost thirty years ago to hold on to our children, as well as anything else with which He has blessed us, very loosely. We are only care takers. One tragic horseback riding accent and my seven year old son, who had become a believer only two weeks before, went home to Jesus.

    One day I happened upon the prayer I had written in the front flap of my bible. It was a prayer of relinquishment, submitting my all to Him.

    Our Sovereign Lord cared for me in those sad months following his death. I was never able to blame God or resent Him for my loss. I was only ever able to praise Him for His love and sovereignty in my life.

    I always am blessed by your posts, Joe.

    • “We are only care takers.”

      So true! And so important to remember.

      One of my sisters says, about her children, “God is their real parent. I’m just the big sister charged with caring for them for a little while.”

      Thank you, Heather, for sharing that perspective learned through such great loss.

  4. Dear Joe
    Oh, we will never know on this side of eternity what Hannah went through being childless and Perdita with her many sons always laughing at her. Then, we can just think how Perdita must have felt knowing full well that Hannah was their husband’s favorite wife. Mysterious is the ways of God and just as well for who wants to worship a god that we can contain within the confines of our imagination. I am so sorry to read about you and your children, dear friend.
    Blessings for 2014 XX

    • You’re right, Mia! We learn so much more from biblical stories when we learn to recgnize the difficulties and sorrows inherent in human relationships.

      I am so thankful we have a God who sees our heart and overlooks our many mistakes while fulfilling His purpose in our lives.

      My chidren and I had some pretty rough patches, relationally, during that divorce and child custody battle. However, God has been faithful to restore relationships and to bless each of them as they’ve matured to adulthood.

      Thank you, Mia!

  5. It was very interesting to read about Hannah from a man’s perspective. We can so often miss that men also suffer in a single parent home yet more is written about women. We must all remember that our God holds each of our children in His hands. He loves them beyond our comprehension. And He will fulfill His purposes in their lives. May God be with you, strengthen you & show you how to maintain strong ties with your children in the coming years. Thank you so much for sharing. I visited this morning from Hear It, Use It. Blessings!

    • Thank you, Joanne, for both the prayer and the encouragement!

      Yes, when we think of single-parent families, we tend to think of mothers rather than fathers. I’m not sure why that is. I do know that, based on my experience, single-parenting carries a lot of worry, stress, and self-doubt for fathers, too.

      Thank you!

  6. Ah, yes, God working, not just despite the circumstances of Samuel’s life but through them! That’s a thought that I want to dwell on today, Joe! Great re-post and I’m glad I got to read it the second time around. I’m also looking forward to you joining me for Wedded Wed this week!

    • Yes! I join you in that prayer, Beth, trusting God to work in your life, through the difficulties you are now facing.

      I’m looking forward to Wedded Wednesday, too! 🙂

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