I have learned “Listen to your horse” is a common phrase among many horsemen…almost a mantra of sorts…the catch-all solution to horse-human relationship issues.
Got bucked off? Learn to listen to your horse.
Your horse won’t trailer load today? Listen to your horse.
Can’t catch your horse? Listen to your horse.
I’m being a little facetious. There’s a lot more to problem solving than just throwing out a catch phrase. Horsemen are not generally prone to over-simplifying issues. We’re all looking for concrete solutions to real world problems.
However, “Listen to your horse” does come up a lot. It’s a big part of solving issues and improving relationships. It is through listening that minor issues can be appropriately addressed through small changes, before they become major problems.
But what does “Listen to your horse” even mean? With the possible exception of Mr. Ed, horses are not talkative creatures. Not only do they lack human speech, but aside from an occasional whinny they rarely verbalize anything.
Yet, horses do communicate. They are very social animals and interact with other horses almost constantly.
Horses communicate through movement and body language. The tilt of a head…the arch of a neck…the position of ears…the fluidity or choppiness of a gait…the attitude displayed in an approach…muscle tension…and so much more.
So, listening to a horse doesn’t have much to do with audible speech or use of one’s ears. It has to do with paying attention with intentionality. It has to do with an awareness of the horse’s movement and body language. It has to do with being able to feel a change in muscle tension or fluidity of gait. It has to do with being in the moment with intentional awareness.
Ray Hunt wrote about “take a feel of your horse” then “feel for your horse.”
Ray refused to even define what he meant by feel, timing and balance. He said these were terms each horseman had to learn for himself…and that the definitions change over time.
Frankly, I was a bit uncomfortable with that. It all sounds a bit mystical…a bit too horse-whisperer…too abstract…
I wasn’t looking for a spiritual connection with four-legged animals. I just wanted to learn a little about training horses.
But listening is one of the most practical things a horseman can learn. Yes, it is a bit abstract. Yes, it is more art than science. No, I’m not very good at it…but I’m a lot better than I used to be.
It is through listening that my interaction with a horse becomes a conversation rather than a demand. It is through listening that my timing improves. It is through listening that my horse and I learn to communicate with better responsiveness to lighter cues. And it is through listening that I am able to address minor concerns before they become major problems.
It is through listening to my horse that my horse learns to listen to me.It is through listening to my horse that my horse learns to listen to me. Click To Tweet
I’m also learning that this intentional awareness listening extends beyond horses.
It’s just as important with people. With fellow humans, we tend to get a little lazy. We’re so accustomed to communicating complex concepts through words that we forget to pay attention to subtler communication of body language and emotions. We’re so distracted by making our point, or by external distractions such as smart phones, that we neglect to be in the moment with intentional awareness of the other person’s nonverbal communication.
And this intentional awareness listening also applies to prayer.
God has never yet directly spoken to me in an audible voice. But He does speak to me.
If it makes you more comfortable, call it a prompting of the spirit…or a nudging…or a calling to mind of a scripture. Preachers often talk about God’s call to ministry. Whatever words are used we’re talking about God communicating directly with us, as individual believers, through the Holy Spirit.
Yes, He does that. Jesus said He would. The apostles said He would. And He does.
The Holy Spirit speaks to me in ways similar to how my horse speaks to me…except different. Much like my horse, God has thus far refrained from directly speaking to me in an audible voice. However, God speaks to me in other ways.
He speaks to me through our animals. Just read back through some of my blog posts and you’ll see it’s true.
He speaks to me through recalling scripture to mind.
He speaks to me through other people.
He speaks to me in difficult circumstances.
He speaks to me in my fear.
He speaks to me through things as simple as an empty gas tank.
He speaks directly to my spirit whispering words of comfort, love, and wisdom.
He sometimes gives me direction…a course of action I am to take.
He has, at least one time, spoken to me through angels…which I still feel a little weird about saying…but am convinced it is true.
Listening to God is similar to listening to my horse. It requires intentional awareness and being in the moment.
God speaks to me all the time. Sometimes, I’m paying enough attention to hear Him.God speaks to me all the time. Sometimes, I'm paying enough attention to hear Him. Click To Tweet
I’m not big on New Years resolutions. I’ve never done the Word of the Year blogging thing.
But one thing I for sure want to do better in the coming year is to listen.